It takes a lot of courage to ask someone out–especially when you’re really into them. We always cross our fingers, our toes, and hope for the best (that they’ll say yes).
But, sometimes, people aren’t into us the way we’re into them–bummer. Sure, it sucks to get shot down, but, it sucks when you get shot down pretty brutally. There are ways to let people down easy, and ways to drop them completely on their heads. People began sharing the worst ways they’ve been let down by someone their into and–all I can say is, ouch.
At school, my crush shouted in my face, “I TOLD YOU BEFORE I’M NOT INTERESTED SO STOP ASKING!”
She’d got me mixed up with someone else. I’d never spoken to her. She didn’t know I existed.
She was a new server in a restaurant where I was a cook. We hit it off hard, lots of chemistry, always had a good time chatting during work hours. I floated along on this for two weeks and then one night as we were closing the store I asked if we could get together sometime. She said no in such an immediate and apprehensive way that I was a little bit shocked. I asked why not, she said “I really just don’t like you very much.”
I asked haven’t we been flirting it up for two weeks? She said yes. I asked what’s the deal with all that and I’ll never forget the answer.
“You just seemed like you really needed to meet someone and I felt sorry for you.”
She wasn’t wrong, but FUCK.
A friend thought it would be funny to let slip to the girl I liked that I liked her.
Her response? “EW NO”
One time I was making out with this girl in her apartment and I said we should go on a date, we’d make a good couple. She laughed and said I’m not relationship material then continued making out with me.
Got laughed at to my face. Not an exaggerated laugh, it was a true from the heart actual crack-up.
Asked a girl out and she said she was a lesbian, two weeks later I saw her making out with a dude at a party.
In high school, a bunch of cheerleaders sat at the same table as part of my friend group. I had classes and mutual friends with a lot of them so it wasn’t out of the ordinary to talk to them. One girl was also in my Physics class and I was like, wow this girl has it going on. She was tall, blonde, stereotypically cheerleader hot, popular and also smart. We would talk inside and outside of class and often were in the same study groups. I took a liking to her, my friends convinced me to make a move.
One day at lunch, I told her I liked her and asked if we could go out. It seemed to be going well, she didn’t say no or give a negative reaction. 16 year old me couldn’t believe I was pulling this off, just like my friends told me I would! I don’t remember if she asked or I offered, but I had my number written on a piece of napkin and gave it to her. She accepted it and then had to leave early for cheer.
As she was walking out of the lunch room she stopped at the ends of the tables, looked back and made sure I was looking. Then, she crumpled up the napkin with my phone number and threw it with conviction into the trash. And turned around and walked out.
I dated a girl for about two weeks in high school and she actually made a literal pro and cons list of me vs this other guy she worked with, and showed it to me when she broke up with me for him. The only pro on his list was “is hot” and the only con on mine was “is short”. That stuck with me for more than a decade.
60 year old guy here. Met online, first “meet for coffee” date. After 20 minutes, she said “Well, I’ve heard enough here” and walked out. Ouch.
Not me, but a few weeks ago my coworker walked into a bar. Sat down and ordered a drink. A girl walked in a stood next to him waiting for the bartender. He looks over at her and said, “Hi”. She looked at him and said, “Sorry, I dont talk to guys with bitch tits.” And walked away.